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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
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Survivor story
Frog in the pot.
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Message of Healing
Healing is being able to take accountability for my own choices. It’s being able to love that version of myself that was hurt and scared and made decisions the best she could with the knowledge and strength she had at the time. The hardest part of healing and moving on is being able to forgive yourself for the choices you’ve made that brought you to your current existence. Once you can forgive yourself, then you can forgive the abuser. Not as in letting them slide, but letting go of the anger and sadness. Because once you can do that, your cup has more room in it to hold love and happiness.
It took 10 years of emotional, physical and financial abuse from a narcissistic man to realize that I stayed because it felt normal. My childhood wasn’t a healthy environment. So when I met my ex his avoidant and violent nature felt right. The gaslighting and love bombing were so common in my childhood home, I didn’t see the red flags when they popped up. Today I’m still struggling with imposter syndrome. How much of it was real affection? How much was more manipulation and lies? I wanted to share this, because sometimes I need to be validated that it all did happen, it wasn’t a fever dream. So I hope this helps someone out there. You’re not alone. What you’re feeling is valid. It’s scary and confusing at first, but it gets so much better. One day at a time. One small healthy decision at a time. It’s not gonna get better overnight, it will take a while. It’s been 1 year since we split, 2 months since the divorce. I’m taking my time to reset my nervous system and figure out who I am, without his narrative over me. You are loved.
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